WHY EMPATHS ATTRACT NARCISSISTS

 WHY EMPATHS ATTRACT NARCISSISTS

Empaths don’t attract narcissists because they’re weak.
They attract narcissists because they carry a rare combination of emotional depth, intuition, and compassion that narcissists crave — but can never create within themselves. Empaths are everything a narcissist is not, and that contrast becomes a magnet.

1. Empaths see the wounded child inside the narcissist.

An empath can sense pain even when it’s hidden under arrogance. They see the brokenness behind the anger, the insecurity behind the ego, the abandonment behind the manipulation.
While everyone else sees the mask, the empath sees the wound — and tries to heal it.

This makes them vulnerable to someone who never intended to heal in the first place

2. Empaths give love without keeping score — narcissists take without limits.

An empath loves deeply, generously, and wholeheartedly.
A narcissist absorbs love like a bottomless pit.
The more the empath gives, the more the narcissist wants — and the more the empath feels responsible for “fixing” the relationship.

A narcissist sees this not as love…
but as opportunity.

3. Empaths mistake intensity for connection.

Narcissists love-bomb with passion and intensity.
To an empath, it feels like emotional alignment.
They believe they’ve found someone who “feels” as deeply as they do — until that intensity turns into anger, withdrawal, jealousy, or manipulation.

The truth?
It was never depth.
It was control wearing the costume of love.

4. Empaths are nurturers — narcissists need constant emotional feeding.

Empaths soothe.
Narcissists drain.
Empaths listen.
Narcissists monologue.
Empaths validate.
Narcissists demand.

This dynamic creates a dangerous cycle:
the empath becomes the healer…
while the narcissist becomes the taker.

5. Empaths want peace — narcissists thrive in chaos.

Empaths try to fix arguments, soften tone, calm energy, apologize first.
Narcissists use conflict to regain control.
The empath thinks harmony is the goal.
The narcissist thinks dominance is the goal.

You cannot “love” someone into emotional maturity.

6. Empaths believe in people’s potential — narcissists weaponize that hope.

Empaths fall in love with:
• who the narcissist could be
• who they were during the love-bombing
• who they desperately wish the narcissist would become

Narcissists use this hope to keep the empath stuck.
“You saw the good in me once… try harder. Love me more.”

It’s manipulation disguised as possibility.

7. Narcissists choose empaths because they are the easiest to break… and the hardest to replace.

A narcissist knows an empath will:
• forgive
• understand
• over-explain
• excuse
• stay longer than they should

But once an empath wakes up…
they become the one person the narcissist can never control again.